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5 Things To Remember When Dealing With Toxic People

Do you have a toxic person in your life? You know, the person who lives like they are a victim or a martyr and the world owes them. They often cause drama and try to rub their crappy mood off on you. They go out of their way to try and destroy your relationship with others. You probably know at least one- a coworker, a family member, or a person that as much as you wish they’d go away, they are in your life for the time being. Its easy to let this miserable person affect your attitude and relationships. I myself have struggled with toxic people in my life. But in my years here is what I have learned:

Keep your cool around them. 

Toxic people thrive off of stirring the pot. You may have the urge lose it on them and give them a piece of your mind, but doing so will result in causing issues to grow and get worse. Frankly, this is probably exactly what they are going after. Before responding to something they say or do, try to breathe and relax while thinking before speaking. 

Stand Your Ground. 

If a conversation turns into a confrontation, don’t let them turn you into a doormat. They want to bring you to their level, but don’t allow that to happen. Stay calm. If you need to, walk away from the situation. 

Don’t take it personally. 

People who are toxic tend to be harmful towards everyone one around them, and that includes you. They have poor self-esteem and try to make themselves feel better by letting their negativity out on others. When they act like this, it has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with them. Don’t let them get to you- it’s what they want. 

Remove yourself from the situation. 

At all costs, avoid one on one time with the person. If this person is someone who will be at an event such as Thanksgiving dinner, try to find a way to get away from this person and avoid more than small talk. Tend to your child or go see if you can help in the kitchen. 

Don’t expect them to change.

I believe that everyone deserves a second chance and are capable of changing, but unfortunately toxic people can be stuck in their ways. This may come down to you cutting their person out of your life. That’s totally okay if it comes down to it. But if you’re like me and have to put up with a toxic person for the time being, just keep carrying on. Try to not let the person have any control in your life. After all, you are what really matters. 

Do you have an toxic people in your life? How do you deal with them?


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2 thoughts on “5 Things To Remember When Dealing With Toxic People

  1. Great topic for Holiday get togethers!!! Good advice. There are so many versions of toxic, too. Setting up boundaries ahead of time helps, coaching yourself, like, “if this situation happens, I will do this instead of get sucked in.” Or “I will not allow the conversation to go there, I will simply say ‘that’s none or your business’ or ‘we are changing the topic'” This will empower you. And help you be proactive instead or reactive. Reactive feeds them. And some toxics are clueless, some are deliberate. And either scenario can drain your soul. See them as emotional vampires and wear turtleneck and a scarf and watch your back. Don’t let your holiday be a feast for them.

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